Sam Getting Advice from Celine on His Marriage and What He Can Do Part 2

As Sam continues to talk with Celine:
Celine: That is not something I can answer because I do not know you very well yet. I would probably talk to her best friends to know this more but if you are asking for an opinion from somebody who has experience with all this, I do understand. What I think you are describing is how you have no self-confidence in yourself when in comes to your marriage? Now, remember, I am telling you the truth.
Sam: Of course and I want this advice. That is why I came to you Celine. I need to hear the truth if I need to get through this predicament I am in. But do you think that is the case?

Celine: Trust me, many men do have this problem. And I understand why because they say it all the time. Women are confusing and we have our own  problems at times where we may be really happy or just really on edge. But what you need to remember is that Quinn said yes to you because she trusts you to both respect her as your wife and as the father of your child together. Right when she said I do, you got her trust. But what I need to know if you want my help is whether or not you are asking yourself if you either have abused her trust or are loosing it.

Sam: I would say a bit of both. I hate to see her stressed about our daughter all the time and even when we are solving problems together, she may look calm but in my heart, I just know she is and I can't help but blame myself for not maybe doing something that will tell her, let me take control and relax. You are not thinking rationally and maybe this would be a time to trust me and just try and stay calm. That happens all the time and I have to tell her. I want to know though that I can get that from her automatically. I don't want to always have to ask her to relax and I don't because it just causes more problems which make it worse. I want to explain to her that by her always taking that control, she is not helping the situation for herself but she is in fact making it worse. But when I think of ways to say this, I can only think of ways that would automatically offend her when I say it and that is not what I want at all.  I want to avoid that, yet I also want to get the mesage across easily with some simple words. Not a long conversation like this. I know my wife and if we talked like this on something just this small, the wall will automatically get bigger between us.

Celine:  So you also sense a wall in between you both? Like she is not telling you everything. Like she isn't telling you exactly what she wants and how you can help her?